How Much Do You Share Your Life On Your Blog?

Hi guys, today’s post is going to be a discussion, a short one probably. This is a question that has been on my mind before I started blogging, and stays there until now.

Blogging is great, you have your own little corner of the internet to share your own views and feelings, even random things. You are free to write whatever you want and whenever you want to post it. You can be a totally different person from who you are in the real life. It amazes me how I can be quiet in real life yet manages to write 1000-2000 words of post at once.

As you blog, you will meet other people; bloggers who blog the same thing as you are, bloggers who blog about different things but met you anyway, and of course, your readers. They became friends, some of them even became best friends in real life if you’re lucky enough to be able to meet some of them. And as friends, we humans tend to share about our life with each other. Not only about our blogging life and woes, but also our real-life ones. And while it’s nice to have someone who’s outside your real-life listening to your problems, it also scares me. I mean… it’s the internet.

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Please don’t get me wrong, I love and appreciate every single one of you. But we also hear a lot of happenings caused by oversharing on the internet. From scamming to stalking to homicide. Sometimes people took your information and save it for later use.

I notice a lot of people shares things about their life online, from good news to bad news. And that’s okay! But as much as I want to that, the naggings and warnings are always present in the back of my mind and make me cautious.

I do share about my life in my blog, you can read my about page for some basic info and I share life happenings on my monthly wrap-up. However, they all felt shallow and not meaningful compared what I see other bloggers shared. Others shared why they felt anxious, I just say “I’m in a weird mood this month”. Some bloggers shared what they are doing for the summer in details, I only tell you guys about where do I go.

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It’s not that I don’t want to share my life with you guys, it’s just I… can’t. I’m a private person in real life, even more than I am online. I don’t tell about myself unless my friends ask, even if they ask often times I don’t elaborate my answer. Even with my best friends for 10+ years, it’s still hard for me to share some things. And especially online, where we all never see each other face to face, it’s really bugging me everytime I write my monthly wrap up or an update explaining what’s happening with my life. Is it okay to share this? Is this too much information? Is this too personal?

So now on to you: how much do you share about your life on your blog? How do you decide which informations to share?

tasya

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42 Replies to “How Much Do You Share Your Life On Your Blog?”

  1. This is interesting timing for me to read this since I just shared something very personal on my blog. I did struggle with what/how much to share, but I eventually just decided to lay it all out there. But I’m not a terribly private person in general. Not that I go around telling EVERYONE my business, but I do feel sometimes like sharing is a good thing—for me and for other people who know they’re not alone. But it’s totally your decision what you want to share and what you want to keep to yourself!

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  2. I share a decent amount. I see my blog as my space and there I share whatever is on my mind, to a point of course (mostly in wrap ups). I am a private person in real life but my blog is where I can let myself be a bit free.

    However I completely understand that other people don’t feel the same way and there is nothing wrong with being cautious. I’ve made my own decisions in that but I never expect others to do similar. Share what you feel comfortable sharing. Maybe it is good to see what exactly you feel comfortable sharing and keep to that. Just so you aren’t constantly having those questions in your mind whenever you are writing your wrap up. It sounds stressful.

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  3. I write my life in a journal, separate from my blog because if I write something about someone that isn’t to their liking, they harass me. It’s gotten so bad that I’m thinking about getting a restraining order.

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      1. Sad thing is it’s not just online. They know me in real life and take my poems out of context. I had to buy self protection and the saddest part is they are family.

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  4. It’s totally okay to be a bit more private and cautious online! I guess this is why I have an alias email and never use my personal one. I think it’s really important to know your limitations when sharing anything online. If you do have a friend already you have an established relationship with and you trust, if you really want to, you can share more personal happenings via DM. πŸ™‚

    – Aimee @ Aimee, Always

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  5. I’m a private person as well and tend to only share more generic updates about my mood or situation. That being said, what I’m comfortable putting up on my public blog is different from what I’m okay with sharing in private with blogging friends πŸ™‚ Whether you share a lot or not very much, I think either approach is totally acceptable so long as you’re comfortable with it! Speaking for myself, I’ve never judged a blogger based on how many details about their life they choose to share πŸ™‚

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  6. I struggle with this so much as well. I personally haven’t been the victim of any stalking or harassment incidents but I’ve made a few bad decisions about who to give things like my address and age to. It all worked out but those things are really scary. One of my favorite quotes is from James Veitch: “The internet gave us access to everything but it also gave everything access to us”. I know most (if not all) of the people I talk to on the internet (and in the blogging/bookish community) are completely genuine people but there’s always that one in a million who will exploit any information you reveal. Personally, I avoid giving out my address (and I keep track of who has it; I also only reveal my general area like the country and state I live in), my age, any pictures of myself, any pictures of my friends or family, and any identifying landmarks. It’s kind of weird because there are people on the internet who know more about me than my real life friends and yet they have no idea what I look like or where I live! It’s a tough thing but I believe in trusting my intuition so if it feels weird to share something, explore why it feels weird and listen to that feeling! I personally don’t mind posts that are kept a bit impersonal (ie monthly wrap-ups that only focus on the books/movies) because there’s still a discussion happening and that’s what matters!

    Laura @BlueEyeBooks

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  7. I can understand where you’re coming from, because we need to face it: there is no privacy on the internet, and anything you share can become public. I share a lot of personal things in my life, but the posts I write are personal in the sense that they’re thoughts I might not say out loud on a daily basis. I write about travel and the revelations I’ve had in my life as I’ve grown, but I’m always careful to keep my personal life my own — no one needs know what my room looks like, what foods I eat, or when I exercise. Those things are easy to share online, but I feel like if I did, I would be giving away a precious part of my life that I deem mine and mine alone.

    In the end, we are all in control of our own blogs and the information we choose to share online. There’s nothing wrong with only sharing your book reviews online — you don’t need to feel pressured to talk about your personal struggles if you would prefer not to, and your readers should completely understand and respect that. 😊

    This was a really interesting topic, Tasya! Thank you for making me think more about this topic! πŸ’•

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  8. I’m a private (and shy) person too, and I often realizes that the few informations that I give on my blog are neglected, most of the times. So I keep most of my life private, except maybe general information, like how is the weather now in my country.

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  9. I’m the same way! Even in real life I’m so private with my closest friends. Like I don’t want to burden anyone with my problems, nor do I even like discussing them, and I also don’t like seeming like I’m bragging about positive things so it’s kind of like “don’t ask, don’t tell” πŸ˜… don’t worry at all, you are allowed to expose as much of yourself as you’re comfortable ❀️

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  10. I’m a pretty private and paranoid person in real life so I don’t share super personal information online. I don’t mind sharing my feelings or sexuality, but I’m not going to talk about vacations I plan to go on or the city I’m from. I use to hate when my friends would pin our location online. I don’t need strangers knowing exactly where I am!! As long as I feel it won’t effect my safety, or it’s something that has happened in the past, I don’t mind sharing. I mostly just go off how I feel sharing something.

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  11. This was a really interesting post to read! I’m pretty open and honest on my blog, but I only write about my life in my wrap ups and sometimes if I have being on hiatus for a long time, I’ll do an update post, but that’s it. So, I’m open when I write about it, but I don’t do it often. I am the kind of person that will talk about my anxiety and even go into some details because I don’t talk about it that often in real life, so my blog is my outlet. Actually, I do share some pretty personal things on my blog, but it’s because I see it as an outlet and I guess the way we see our blogs varies from person to person and that’s why each of us has to decide how much we want to share. I think the only thing I keep to myself is the exact city where I live for safety reason.

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  12. I wholly empathize with you, Tasya. Being open about my feelings to my friends and my family is a massive struggle for me. But I do find it much easier to share things with people online. I saw a post on tumblr that was something along the lines of, “You know all the childhood traumas and deepest fears of your online friends, but then two years into your friendship you’re like, ‘Wait, you have a dog?'” Which sums it up perfectly. I like being candid with things like my mental health on my blog because I like to think that it’ll help others feel less alone.

    But that’s just ME. Your life is your life, so do what feels the best for you! ❀

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  13. This was such an interesting post! I try to be open on my blog because I’m not that open in real life and it gets to me that I don’t always speak my mind. However, I do keep things like where I am or what specific place I’m going to be private for safety reasons.

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  14. This is a great post! I see exactly what you mean. I try to be pretty open on my blog, but of course I do keep things going on in my life to myself just for privacy reasons. And then of course I also don’t share my age, where I live, etc., for safety reasons. I think it can also depend on what kind of blog you have? Like for me, since I have a book blog, there aren’t many posts where I’m talking about myself. But for people with more lifestyle blogs, more of their posts are about themselves and what’s going on in their lives, if that makes sense. But you should only share what you feel comfortable sharing, and not feel bad at allπŸ’ž

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  15. OH this is such an interesting discussion and I completely get where you come from. If I share some things on my blog at times, I’m still a very private person and won’t share everythin online either, I’m more of the kind of person saying I am anxious, but not telling why to the entire world, only to a couple people I trust. As long as you feel comfortable with whatever you want to share, that’s what matters ❀

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  16. I relate to where you’re coming from, Tasya, and you don’t have to worry or apologize at all! ❀ I think we all understand, and I'm definitely on the more private side as well – partly because it's my personality, and partly, because it's still the internet – and everyone (not only your blogger friends) can read what I'm writing.

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